Awesome, thanks doods.
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Can anybody remember when the doos song first appeared on Bosman v Wozniak?
I want to show someone and can't remember.
RE: Depression question
Late to the party but here we go anyway:
This is a complex topic, but my opinion is that it is important to view depression a valid emotion, not a disease, unless it is truly so.
In my experience there is "physiological depression" and there is existential depression.
Physiological is hard to pin down and not greatly understood, hence the quotes, but it is usually medically based, actual biochemical imbalance, that sort of thing. If this is the source of your depression, then this is the realm of your medical professional, doctors and consultants, whatever way it works in your country. I know something of it from University, but I am not an expert and don't presume to be.
Existential depression I know anecdotally, given my own experiences. Everybody gets this. It's a reaction to the changes we all face in life. I got it worst when stuck in a supermarket job, knowing all too well that I was wasting my potential. Bad relationships, debt, friends moving on to "American Dream" lifestyles while I stagnated, all these things can make one feel awful. There is good in that feeling, however. It can form the core of a new drive to push yourself to better things.
Regarding your actually posed questions:
Everybody has demons, and some people can't face them. Someone blowing you off because you talk about depression could be denying their own problems. I was this type of person. Old drunks in the pub at lunch-time are this type of person. You can't control this. Denial is easy, most people take this option. Last thing these people want is a stark reminder of their issues.
Therapy only helps with problems that can be talked out. It's most useful for normalizing your feelings, in my experience, so you don't feel overwhelmed by things that are common to a lot more people than you would expect. One has to be 100% committed to the process for this to be a viable option, otherwise it's a waste of time for everyone involved.
If your depression is existential, you cannot apply a catch-all solution to deal with it, I'm afraid. I am oh so poor, financially, but I saved up, went to Japan as a teacher for a year, had a great time. I found that the academic lifestyle suited me. I discovered a love of karaoke that I never had before. I actually prefer jazz to metal. A person can like Metallica and Micheal Buble. Little realizations like this led me to deconstruct the person I thought I was and build a self image of who I really am. All those thing others have mentioned, like diet and exercise, will flow naturally from this. I deal with current depression episodes by acknowledging them as valid yet transient feelings that compel me to continue that process. I realize how pretentious and ridiculous that sounds, but I'm OK with that.
On a more critical note: Happiness is not an attainable state of being. It is a relative way of classifying a period of time retrospectively. One is not entitled to it in any way. If you feel that you are, consider the slave-children that make your consumer goods. Relate your happiness to theirs. Desire for perpetual happiness is part of hedonism. One can have hedonism as a philosophy if one so chooses, but in this case depression is more likely disappointment that the flow of pleasure is not constant. I feel this is an important distinction to make, because depression is a real issue that exists on a spectrum of intensities, but wanting "more happiness" is not the same as being depressed. Depression hurts on a level that can't be dealt with so trivially.
I hope someone reads this and finds it helpful, but dismiss it as garbage if you wish.